Tuesday, July 5, 2011

Retired?


Retired (re·tired/riˈtīī(ə)rd) is defined by the dictionary as being an adjective that means having left one's job and ceased to work.

"Once a bartender, always a bartender." That's what a friend of mine had told me back in March when I broke the news to her and all of the rest of my friends that I had worked my last official shift as a bartender earlier this year. I told everyone that I had thrown in my bar towel for good this time. I had moved on to the corporate world as a licensed esthetician, working as a Beauty Advisor. No more working nights. No more working weekends. What's up steady paycheck? Hello health and dental insurance! How you doing 401K?

Her response? "Yeah right. You'll be back."

My schedule is now completely opposite of what it used to be for the past eight years. Instead of getting off work at 3 am, I'm now getting up at 3 am to get ready for work for the East Coast clients. Its extremely hard going from being a night owl to a morning person. Even though I have had my "new" schedule for the past nine months, I am still struggling to get used to the early mornings. I'm just not a morning person.

For the most part, I enjoy what I do. I learn something new everyday. I'm constantly challenged on the training and education I have received thus far in my industry. I am a closet nerd so I love researching the answers to questions clients ask me that I don't have a solid answer for. The gratis I receive working as a Beauty Advisor is a definite perk to the job. Plus, clients always manage to keep things interesting with their comments, questions, suggestions and/or vents. Even though I no longer sling drinks behind the bar, I'm still working in a customer service position. Just this time, it's mainly with sober people.

I recently came across a letter I wrote to myself on the night of my last official shift working as a bartender. Even though it's more than four months old, I thought it be appropriate to post here:

"Tonight is my last night of bartending. I'm finally retiring and getting out from behind the bar. Can I get a moment of silence?

No, seriously. I am finally leaving the world of bartending behind for good. I first started as a bartender over eight years ago as a way to pay the rent through college. I've had so many amazing (and not so amazing) experiences. I've met an incredible amount of people, both sober and not so sober, along the way. The time has finally come where I set down my bar key and take the bar rag out of my back pocket for the last time.

As many of you may know, I've been in the midst of switching over from the bar/restaurant industry into the beauty/skin care industry. I received my esthetician license last year and have been working full-time as a Beauty Advisor ever since while still managing to bartender a few nights a week. I'm tired. I'm cranky. My heart is no longer into crafting cocktails for a thirsty public well into the wee hours of the night, especially since now I have to get up at 4 am for my day job. Getting up early really takes the magic out of everything.

I leave the world of bartending with no regrets. I've worked behind the bar at a variety of places, each one teaching me a thing or two about myself and mankind in general. I cherish all of my stories, both good and bad. I loved the flexible schedule bartending gave me to pursue my dreams and hobbies. I appreciated always having cash in my hand. I enjoyed teaching people my craft during my stint as a bartending school instructor. Most importantly, I've loved sharing all of my stories, experiences and advice with my loyal blog readers.

In my true fashion of seeing things through the glass is half-full perspective, I have jotted down a few reasons why retiring from bartending is going to be so awesome:

1. More sleep means less wrinkles.
2. My manicures will last longer.
3. No more late night snacking. Something about bartending late night always made me hungry.
4. There will be more time for working out in the gym so I can work off all of those years of late night snacking.
5. My social life will start existing again.
6. There wont be so many old men trying to hit on me on a nightly basis.
7. I will have more time and energy to dive headfirst into my new career.

So join me in raising a shot glass to my eight, solid years of service working behind the bar."

I've tried this "retired" thing once before. You think I'll last? I guess time will tell.

32 comments:

Bartender Cabbie said...

I too have retired from bartending. Until I do a big wedding this weekend. Even a bit of catering "bartending" here and there keeps me in the game. Decent extra money no doubt, but I just can't say it is in any way enjoyable anymore.
Good luck in your new career.

HeatherinSF said...

I observed your transition via twitter and it's been fun to see the change. Congratulations on your new path! It takes a lot of courage to redirect your life and not get stuck in what is easy/familiar. Now I need to schedule an appointment sometime (if that's not too weird!).

Cielo Gold said...

Bartender Cabbie-I was making Strawberry Margaritas this weekend for the family. I guess once a bartender, always a bartender. Even if there isn't a tip jar involved!

Heather-It's been a tough struggle going from something i could do in my sleep to learning a whole new industry from the ground up and trying to make a living in it. Some days are harder than others, but overall I know I made the right choice. Life is boring when you keep doing the same thing. Room for growth is good for the soul!

JQ said...

I loved reading your blog! I'm sad there will not be any more bar stories, but I wish you the best of luck in your new career. Thank you for sharing your blog with us for so long and for keeping lushes like me happy for all these years as bartender

Argoss said...

very intresting blog..:)

הבעייתי said...

if you get out from the game evrybody shoukd do it , its very sad to heard that/
but thx for the great blog

קורס ברמנים השוואת מחירים

bartendingcomics said...

Does this necessarily mean the blog is done, or perhaps it too could transition to... a post-bartending blog about bartending? Reflections of an ex-bartender?

Either way, good luck with your new path.

buzzingstreet said...

Nice and quite useful blog. Would like to say that stock market hardly gives any second chance. Once opportunity lost means it’s gone forever. Now the biggest question is how to grab trading opportunities every time we trade?
Well here comes the technical analyses handy. Just rely on research rather than your guts feeling and one should stop speculating in the Share market.
Follow few basic trading rules and we are sure one can earn huge amount in the Indian stock market only by trading in NSE and BSE

The Kid said...

Would you like to get more visitors from San Francisco?

Submit your blog in zeole.com/sanfrancisco . This is a one time submission. This would automatically submit a preview of your future blog posts in San Francisco, with a link back to your blog.

Enjoy more traffic from San Francisco :-)

buzzingstreet said...

Nice and quite useful blog. Would like to say that stock market hardly gives any second chance. Once opportunity lost means it’s gone forever. Now the biggest question is how to grab trading opportunities every time we trade?
Well here comes the technical analyses handy. Just rely on research rather than your guts feeling and one should stop speculating in the Share market.
Follow few basic trading rules and we are sure one can earn huge amount in the Indian stock market only by trading in NSE and BSE

buzzingstreet said...

Nice and quite useful blog. Would like to say that stock market hardly gives any second chance. Once opportunity lost means it’s gone forever. Now the biggest question is how to grab trading opportunities every time we trade?
Well here comes the technical analyses handy. Just rely on research rather than your guts feeling and one should stop speculating in the Share market.
Follow few basic trading rules and we are sure one can earn huge amount in the Indian stock market only by trading in NSE and BSE

green drink said...

Changes are huge. I felt happy in what i heard.

sharegyan001 said...

If you are trading in NSE, BSE, MCX and in NCDEX then let sharegyan give you all stock trading gyan

sharegyan001 said...

If you are trading in NSE, BSE, MCX and in NCDEX then let sharegyan give you all stock trading gyan

sharegyan001 said...

If you are trading in NSE, BSE, MCX and in NCDEX then let sharegyan give you all stock trading gyan

Marie said...

Never too old to bartend, I agree!

scfinder said...

Bar tending is a great skill that you can learn at SpeedyCourse

SHARETIPSINFO said...

Commodity trading is gaining lot of popularity in India. MCX and NCDEX are most popular commodity exchanges of India. MCX and NCDEX both offers hi tech platform for commodity trading. Commodity trading should have clear picture like how they can earn money from ncdex or mcx trading and for that they need to track various listed commodities and should rely on research rather than speculation.
http://www.sharetipsinfo.com/share-market-investments.html

sharegyan001 said...

If you are trading in NSE, BSE, MCX and in NCDEX then let sharegyan give you all stock trading gyan

sharegyan001 said...

If you are trading in NSE, BSE, MCX and in NCDEX then let sharegyan give you all stock trading gyan

hollywood bistro said...

Im inviting my friends over. They might have something to advice for me as well.

J.R. Locke said...

My advice, once you get out stay out. The only danger is having to slip back in due to a bout of un-employment. Good Luck.
http://complaintothemanager.blogspot.com/

cremation in columbus ga said...

Enjoy each time you have.

Profit said...

Thanks so much with this fantastic new web site. I’m very fired up to show it to anyone. It makes me so satisfied your vast understanding and wisdom have a new channel for trying into the world.

sopnobajj said...

Become a cocktail bartender Visit Our Site

INTRDAYTIPS said...

Very nice article , Thanks for sharing.Our web sites for Intraday traders Intraday share tips
or For more articles like this Intradaytips com


Our intraday Nse share tips work in 60 minutes for free trial send sms TRIAL TO 56767 or TRIAL TO 98 70 80 1717 We

understand the value of your hard earned money Intraday tips

MCX and NCDEX tips said...

Hi, I am a Share Market Tips provider and I like to read article or blogs, mainly I read all blogs, it is my habit to collect information where ever I can, it will never waste ,today I caught your blog and it is written nicely with good content.....I appreciate it....
Thanks
Nifty Futures Tips||Daily Nifty Levels

SHRISTOCKTIPS said...

Share Market Investment made profitable by SHRISTOCKTIPS- Get NSE/BSE Tips via SMS and Yahoo Messenger. As suggested last week market showed a very high positive trend by closing on last 3 years high. We advised all the traders not toNSE BSE, INTRADAY STOCK TIPSbe overconfident in this market because we think correction is due. So we advise all traders to sell the NIFTY at the level of 6250-6300 with stoploss 6400 for the target of 5900 & 5800. This is the best strategy that we can follow. Traders have to take a watch on the banking stock. Banking sector will decide the trend of the market. For further update you can visit our website.
Regards
SHRISTOCKTIPS TEAM

BIGPROFITBUZZ said...

BigProfitbuzz is an Indian stock market advisory firm. BigProfitbuzz proven month after month that trading and investing in stock market can be profitable whether market is bull or bear. For the coming week Trader can make a buy position in the NIFTYINTRADAY STOCK TIPS, NSE BSE TIPSOne can buy NIFTY at 6000-6050 with the stoploss of 5900 for the target of 6200-6300 .Trader can also make a buy position in NIFTY stocks with stoploss to their capacity but try to buy at the prescribed NIFTY level. Always keep stoploss with your trade. You can take our two days trial to check our accuracy. For further update visit our website.
Regards
BIGPROFITBUZZ TEAM

kavin smith said...

Very Nice post sharing with us , I enjoyed it....keep posting......
Bullion tips||
Daily profit tips

Abdul Hai Rathore said...

Read Free Horoscope
http://amliyat-jadoo.blogspot.com/

Shaun Naborn said...

great post, it's been years since you started your new career. How you doin'? , it'll be better if you give us an update on whether you succeed or not on your new chosen path. We'll hope and wait. More power to you.